Raising Bilingual Children: Things Get Harder!
It’s been a long time since I’ve actually written something here. I haven’t actually blogged in months. I have of course continued to make regular content for my YouTube channels and have used this site mainly as the hub for my new passion in life, my podcast. The Just Japan Podcast has become something I have really grown to love. I thought though, if I do write here from time to time, it would of course make the folks who enjoy my written work a little happier and maybe, just maybe, bring a few new listeners to the podcast.
I’ve written before about raising bilingual children. Why? I’ve done it because it’s a major part of my life. Actually, it’s pretty much the main focus of my life. I work in Kobe, Japan as an international schoolteacher and the majority of my students are English Second Language learners. I also have two young children who myself, a Canadian and my Japanese wife are raising to be bilingual.
Recently though, things have become more challenging than they were in the past. I’ve mentioned in previous posts that of course, since we are in Japan, my son’s majority language is Japanese. We work hard to keep his minority language, English evolving, but of course we simply can’t keep up with Japanese because he is, for the most part, immersed in a Japanese world (Japan will tend to do that to ya!)
My son is now 3 years old, pushing 4 and started kindergarten last month. In Japan 3-year kindergarten is quite popular and we decided it would be good for my son to get started now. Most of his friends have already begun kindergarten and if we kept him home for another year he basically wouldn’t have anyone to play with during the day. Now he is attending a private Japanese kindergarten in Kobe.
I was recently accepted into a Canadian Graduate school (I’ll be doing the program online and part-time) and once finished, am looking at a career in educational software development back in Canada. That being the case, we want my son to soak up as much Japanese culture and language as possible. We of course also want him to continue growing in his minority language as well.
As his Japanese language (majority language) grows he of course wants to share more and more about his experiences at school. He can express himself a lot more in Japanese than English (his English is very good), so he wants to speak only in Japanese when he gets home. He’s also been becoming defiant from time to time about this.
The approach we have been taking is that Daddy (me of course) doesn’t understand Japanese so my son must speak English around me. I do of course speak some Japanese and for the most part understand what my son is saying. I however never speak Japanese around him because I want him to use English with me. We have used the approach of saying, “Speak English so Daddy knows what’s happening in your day.” In the past this worked very well and my son would simply switch to English. Recently though, he simply says, “NO!” (not always, just sometimes)
Last month he even told my wife that it’s more fun to talk to her in Japanese than talk to me (his Dad). That hurt a lot. That actually made me extremely sad. I realize that he can express himself in his majority language than his minority language, it sucked when he said, in front of me, that it wasn’t fun to talk to me.
We of course made it very clear to him that he wasn’t being nice to say that, but I didn’t get angry. I was sad, but held back the emotion of anger. I can’t “blame” him for feeling more comfortable using Japanese while in Japan!
What I have been doing though recently is thinking about using English more. I make sure that every morning before my son goes to school he watches some English TV. I also make sure that when I am with him I really speak to him more. When we have time together I speak to him with a lot more thought. I ask him many more questions about his day and thoughts and listen a lot more than I used to.
I have heard that to help his minority language grow he needs to be exposed to at least 25 hours of English a week. That is a challenge, especially since some weeks I work 6 days, but it’s simply something we have to achieve.
Wish us luck!
My daughter still only speaks baby-talk!
If you have any ideas to help us improve my son’s minority language or any questions, leave them in the comments below.
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